Life throws many surprises at us, and while we cannot predict the outcome of any situation, we can take control of how we respond to certain situations.
Drawing upon my ten years as a mediator together with my twenty years in psychotherapy, I have learned so much about acceptance - and how to exert the power of choice over whatever life may throw at us.
Everyone can feel 'stuck between a rock and a hard place' - 'Damned if you do and damned if you don't'. A fresh pair of eyes, and ears, can often see and hear more objectively than the people who are experiencing pain.
The end of love may feel like the end of the world, but life keeps going and people often emerge from a breakup with new knowledge and insights about themselves and the people in their lives.
People who are kind to themselves, who recognize their common humanity, and who adopt habits of mindfulness tend to experience less divorce-related emotional distress.
The mindfulness and self-compassion that seems to underlie the idea of conscious uncoupling may in fact serve as a buffer against the trauma of relationship dissolution.
In the end, conscious uncoupling may describe a pattern of growth, self-compassion, and mindfulness that does in fact help individuals cope with the hardship of disentangling their life from another’s.